Dating from frontlines guide survival
Though now it feels routine, waking up in the middle of the night to respond to a car accident or house fire together wasn't exactly what the two envisioned as their life together when they started dating 11 years ago.
But after both TJ and Shaunna served a tour in the U. Marine Corps, firefighting began to play a critical role in easing them back into the community they called home.
For parents, watching teens go through this can be exactly the same - minus the 'wonderful' and 'exciting' part. Your days were spent obsessing about when you could talk next, and kiss next. (Remember back in the days when there was only such a thing as a ‘home phone’? Today your smitten teen has all of the same desires to be connected with their crush, but with the added possibilities that come with social media, mobile phones, and almost endless opportunities for communicating with their beloved.
Instant photos through instagram and snapchat, instant messaging through skype, facebook, or text, plus old-fashioned contact via the phone or in person.
We've allowed segments of our lives to bleed into other areas.
If you’re like most professional singles, you may have forgotten what it means to have personal time because you’ve dedicated any free time you do get to growing your career or business.
The two have an immense trust and respect for the other's abilities and judgments. I mean, you’ve got plenty of interesting stuff to talk about! So you keep yourself quiet – and then his or her friends begin to think ‘Why is she so quiet? You’re thinking “Yea, I’d love to but I have NO experience with difficult customers sending back their food 3 times! Someone to wake up with on the weekends, and to have dinner with after work. “Why can’t you be more like this…”, “Can’t you rearrange your schedule so you open everyday and be with me in the evenings? ) that you can use to ‘bring to the table’ where you are in your dating journey with your restaurant man or woman! (with MANY of your fellow 9-5′rs in the SAME boat as you! It says that you are serious about your relationship and are out looking for help! It is my vision to create interactive and self seeking programs designed to guide you to the tools that you most likely already have, but need some awareness seeing. And it’s different than anything you’ve experienced (and.. Hey, it’s kinda like you have the best of both worlds! they’re sleeping when you leave for work kinda stinks.. But you know they just pulled a 12 hour shift , so you do your best to keep it quiet while leaving your place. and you’re wondering when the topic is going to change to something you can talk about! Maybe he/she says that you gotta ‘jump in there’ and join the conversation. Maybe this is just you being sensitive as he/she said. with one exception – you’re hearing the awesome stories of your other girlfriends who are dating fellow 9-5′rs and (sad) you want that too. TOOLS FOR FINDING SUCCESS Part of why I’ve created Married to a Chef is to share some tools (most likely that you already have but aren’t aware of! here are three things to ponder and ask yourself: 1. Being a 9-5′r and dating someone in the restaurant industry is going to have it’s share of being the pits sometimes, we cannot deny that. There are some wonderful blessings that come with being where you are. In other words, how could you see this relationship and it’s parameters as an opportunity to focus on other areas of your life? TRUST me – it may not seem like it, but there is a big red bow tied around your relationship, it’s just a matter of seeing the opportunity where you might currently see lack! You do what’cha gotta do (online dating/events/etc) to meet this person. ” My guess is – you probably recognize the feeling this brings. And to add to it, those around us do NOT understand what it’s like. (Like, for example, successful 9-5′rs in relationships in this industry find their WILDLY INDEPENDENT!!! ” These experiences are quickly becoming red flags to you. So you continue into your relationship knowing there is another way to ‘be’ in a relationship. ”, “What do you mean I have to go to my parents for Thanksgiving alone! These tools are what your VALUES are; and once you really grasp what they are and how they show up in your life,you’ll see a whole new world before you!
The lines may have even started blurring if your social life revolves around work like it does for so many professionals who spend most of their waking days with clients, colleagues and associates.